Written by Shannon Lyn Arnold, Coach on Collective Gain, and a self-described introvert who helps others find self worth using introversion as a strength.
Do you feel stuck in a job you don't like working for a boss you don't respect? Do you think your business isn't growing because of your quiet nature and aversion to networking? Do you feel trapped in a relationship with someone you know isn't right, but can't find the courage to leave?
What's holding you back?
Just as coaches help athletes perform at an optimal level, a life coach can help you achieve your goals and surpass your own expectations while keeping you accountable. These are big promises, and just like with sports coaching, your progress is ultimately up to you.
A life coach’s job is to help you close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. But first, you need to break through the hurt, insecurities, and baggage that has built up over the years. And it's up to you to show up, be vulnerable, and do the work with your coach so you can create sustainable change at the deepest level.
Here are four ways coaching can help you get unstuck and create the life you want.
UNCOVER & LIVE THOSE FORGOTTEN DREAMS
Take a moment to think about what you really want out of life. Pay attention to what rises to the surface of your mind. Now tell me, when is the last time you even asked yourself this question?
For so many of us, life just happens and over time, the dreams and desires that make up who we are at our core get pushed further and further down the priority list, until they’re not even part of what we consider possible anymore.
But those are the things that make us come alive. They’re what we were created to do, and it’s never, ever too late to resurrect those dreams.
The primary goal of coaching is to move you forward, but part of this also involves uncovering what is holding you back on the deepest level. Bringing clarity to how you are getting in your own way gives you the power back, and creates the space for you to begin integrating what makes you feel the most alive into your life again.
FINALLY FOLLOW THROUGH WITH ACTION
Let’s talk about goals and good intentions. We all have them, we’re all serious about them (at least when we make them!) and we all too often fall short of actually making them happen. A coach can help you clearly define what you want to achieve, and then work with you to design an action plan to accomplish your goal through small, incremental changes that make a big impact.
Coaching is an action-oriented investment that is highly motivating, provides the accountability that so many of us need, and delivers the results we are all desiring. It ultimately leads to a greater level of fulfillment in our lives.
These are measurable results that can seem miraculous because they are exactly what you wanted and often what you didn’t realize you needed. This is because coaches understand that you are the expert on your own life, and have the ability to help you unlock what is holding you back so you can access what you need to move forward.
What’s even more exciting is that once you catch a glimpse of what’s possible, it can immediately unlock even more possibilities for success.
CHANGE YOUR INNER CRITIC’S MESSAGE
We all have an inner critic. It’s that voice inside that plays some variation of “you’re not good enough” in our most vulnerable and critical moments. It keeps us from stepping into success and instead, traps us inside a cycle of self-doubt, unworthiness, killed confidence, and inadequacy.
This is a coping mechanism we unknowingly created at a young age to protect us, but it is rooted in those childhood moments and no longer serves us in our current situation.
A life coach can help you disempower the emotions tied up in this debilitating cycle and change your inner critic’s message to one that supports you in all areas of your life. This is one of the most transformational tools for understanding how to change our default responses and ultimately, our lives.
THE RIPPLE EFFECT
Recreating your life in this way increases the freedom to choose what your days look like, and to experience a deeper level of fulfillment, passion, and joy. Coaching begins with making the inner changes that will impact every aspect of your life, regardless of the situation you’re facing, because how you do one thing is how you do everything.
You’re not the only one who will be significantly impacted by this. As you increase your own self-awareness, you’ll gain a greater understanding of why others are reacting in certain ways and be able to adjust your response even further based on that information.
Changing the way you show up in the office and at home will change the way others respond to you, and work situations and entire relationships can be transformed as a result. While others may not know what changed, you will, and that is an incredibly empowering place from which to operate.
Schedule a free consultation to learn more about how coaching can help you break free what’s holding you back and create the life you want.